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Why the city can kill you

by Lon on February 9, 2010

dark unlit city

Continuing the last few posts on “God’s bias for the city”, “why cities matter” and “why Toronto matters“; much of what makes cities great is also what makes cities dark and depressing.

Cities amplify the best, but also the very worst, of humanity.

City centers are fueled by individual self-interest.  Everybody goes to the city to  ‘get’ something – career, education, entertainment, money, power, sex, etc.

Population density in cities with limited resources and limited opportunities creates a competitive and tension filled culture.

The pace of the city makes people less compassionate even when they may want to be, ie.  “I can’t stop to help that person because I’ve got to get somewhere to get something.”

Cities are deceptive. In the words of Jay Z and Alicia Keys Empire state of mind – “These streets will make you feel brand new, The lights will inspire you”.  The problem is that while the city may be alive, that doesn’t mean you are.

The busyness of cities prevents us from stopping, reflecting, and asking questions like ‘why’ until we’re completely broken and miserable.

Cities are dense with living beings that refuses to connect with one another.  ie. I can be nose-to-nose with another human being crammed in a gloriously life-filled subway and we can completely ignore each other.  This chips away at our humanity daily because we know something’s not right.

The diversity in cities naturally brings with it conflicting interests and cultural clashes.  Not only does the fringes of culture collide, but those who are already oppressed, are condensed into tight spaces which creates an even more volatile environment.  People can be ticking time bombs.

Cities thrive on anonymity.  Relationships become transactions and we further dehumanize one another.

Cities export evil. Cities inherently create, magnify, and propagate culture.  When it’s bad, it’s bad for everyone.  ie. how cities of the west have led the cycle of work-to-excessively-consume lifestyle now seen as the pinnacle of living for those in rural, village, suburban communities.Cities often displace wildlife and native cultures (we name our neighborhoods and streets after what we’ve destroyed ie. shady oaks, parkway forest, etc.)

Whether it’s for more affordable housing or an easier lifestyle – cities build up towards high-rise apartments.  The living-in-a-box-in-the-sky infrastructure (that I currently live in) disconnects our relationship to the land and creation.

Cities can become empires.  Empires oppress neighboring cultures, serve only the privileged few, and have an insatiable need to always expand and conquer.

And the list goes on.  While murder rates are actually dropping in many cities compared to rural areas, cities can cause a death you’re not even aware of because it’s so broadly accepted.

With all that being said, cities are crucial and strategic to our global future.  We need people in the city, especially those who want to seek the good of the city.

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Lone Rangers

by Lon on November 11, 2009

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I grabbed a late night bite with Mr. Broken-but-usable JD yesterday.  The jerk called me a lone ranger.

About fifteen years ago when I first entered the doors of a church I was called a lone ranger as well.

Trying to not look stupid, I rarely talked to anybody about my spiritual journey.  On my own I read through the Bible, the Koran, Buddhist texts, and other philosophical books.  I was desperately trying to figure it out on my own.  Yes, cue in Celine Dion’s All by myself.

Fast forward to today, and I’m all about community development.

Whether it’s within the church, or in neighborhoods, or even virtually, everything I think and do ties back to connecting people and cultivating community.  Problem is, I still lack it on some level.

I meet with lots of folks and I’m involved in many groups, but community still seems elusive to me.

It could be because I have an over-idealized image of what it looks like.

It could be my social tick that causes me to either only lead in group settings or be completely disengaged (which I’ve read is common if you’re an only-child – a term which I thought was ‘lonely-child’ growing up, but that’s another story). Now that I think about it, I’ve seen this in quite a number of ‘ministers’.  Passionate when we’re leading, just screwing around in the back when we’re not (my past ten small groups can attest to this on my behalf)

It could be that I just flat out haven’t made the effort.

What do you think?

Is there some neurotic place within me that thinks everyone deserves community but me?

Do I secretly despise people?

Is it because I wear the same jeans multiple times before washing them?

JD fears with all that I do I’m going to crash and burn.  Somebody save me.

Photo Credit: Rantes

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Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters

by Lon on October 30, 2009

strong-fathers-strong-daughtersI just finished reading the book “Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters“, and had to share it with more people.

I’ve gathered a bunch of men raising daughters to group blog through the book chapter by chapter here in two weeks.

Some awesome missions-oriented guys joining the ride:

Marty Schmidt
Tony Sheng
Sam Radford
Chris Marsden
Alan Liu
JD Heffern

If you’re a dad with a daughter, and interested in joining us, let me know. It should be a really great experience for all.

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I don’t want to need you

by Lon on August 26, 2009




Dependence

Originally uploaded by Sandytrail

I talk to people endlessly about community and the need for interdependence.

The problem is though that just about everything I do in life, financially, emotionally, and even spiritually, is built towards becoming further independent.

Independence and self-reliance is a highly regarding value in our culture, but I think it runs counter to humanity at its very best.

I want community, but I don’t actually want to need community. How about you?

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Crazy guy #1

by Lon on June 12, 2009

Seth Godin posted this video about a tribe that spontaneously came together at a music festival. He insightfully points out how guy number 2 and 3 make it into a ‘movement’, while guy #49 is irrelevant.

I’m still caught on guy number one. Without the other two guys, he really just looks like one solitary crazy dude. I’ve got to believe that most people who go out on a limb like this do so sheerly for the love of what they do, regardless of what happens. I’ve also got to believe that even passionate crazy dudes feel lonely at times.

What makes you step out when no one else is?

What keeps you going when no one else seems to be joining?

Ever leave someone else hanging like a dancing fool, only to realize you were the fool for not joining in earlier?

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Seth Godin argues the Internet has ended mass marketing and revived a human social unit from the distant past: tribes. Founded on shared ideas and values, tribes give ordinary people the power to lead and make big change. He urges us to do so.

What do you think?

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Questions on church gatherings

by Lon on March 26, 2009

I’ve got lots of questions, here’s a series of questions I’ve been pondering lately on church gatherings – and by that I mean that thing folks do in the New Testament when they get together.

What do you call yours?  I was going to say Sunday gathering, but lots of folks don’t meet on Sundays. Worship service came to mind, but ain’t all life worship? and are we really being serviced?

Last sunday I did a collaborative message in silence (You can read about when I did it last before here).  If you brought me into your church to ‘preach’ and all I did was help Christ be formed in them one of the best ways I know how, would you be disappointed?

With the centrality of Scripture, and it being text, content, information (and yes, Story for you emergent folks, and the Living Word of God for you fundies), I wonder if we’ve overemphasized it’s generally unidirectional mode of communication in our own practices?

Does ‘the gospel’ need to be proclaimed with every gathering?

Could the full weight of the gospel ever be transmitted this side of life?

Could we compress the gospel to a 140-character tweet and spend the rest of our time living it out?

How much literal reading of the Scripture do you do?  Things vary for us, but typically we collectively read a mix of passages following a lectionary, and I tend to expound on a short text.  Some folks want full exposure to the breadth of the Bible, others don’t want to gloss over it and hone in.

Does the Pareto principle of 20% of the people doing 80% of the ‘work’ apply to your gathering?

Do we really need to gather weekly?  versus daily or monthly?

What does God desire for us collectively as we gather?  And are there elements in our worship gathering that don’t contribute towards that?

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Peppermint-filled Pinatas

by Lon on March 25, 2009

Peppermint

First off, thanks Eric for sending me the audiobook for review!

Eric Bryant rocks… for a self-confessing Bald white guy. Peppermint-filled pinatas is a hilarious read, weaving in biblical truths and mostly embarrassing stories from Bryant’s own life – From his many attempts at serving outsiders, to a turning point relationship with his father, and even a lesbian encounter that had me laughing out loud.
Some quotes I enjoyed

- the church was still something I had to endure, one of the sacrifices god was calling me to make…
- more people see christianity as part of their past rather than as a guiding force for their future
- we want to live in an environment where the laws or policies enforce our beliefs and morality rather than engaging a lost and broken world where they live.

The most convicting personal innovation mentioned in the book would be his suggestion of not inviting people to parties, but accepting other people’s invitations as well.

One one level this speaks to us living lives where are presence is desired of course.  But on another level it’s about entering a space that we don’t own or control.  I expect everyone to attend my parties, but maybe I should take some of the 172 invitations i have waiting in my facebook account a bit more seriously.

Eric tackles moving from tolerance to love, with raw honesty, and redemptively.

Afterall, aren’t a lot of us ‘bald white guys’ on the inside?

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