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It’s debatable whether the ‘resistance‘ is with us from birth.

When I look at my children, I’m reminded that kids make beauty without even knowing it. They’re not oppressed by the weight of what the world might think of them, they simply are.

My daughter Gem blows bubbles and giggles to herself. My older daughter Stellar makes up songs and dances like no dance you’ve ever seen. My wife and I have commented that it’s like she’s lost in her own world.

But I wonder if it’s her who’s lost, or us?

Who’s really more screwed up – Our kids who don’t seem to know any better, or we who seem to live fragmented lives at the knees of resistance?

And then I see it happen before my eyes as my daughter looks back at me.

If I do this daddy smiles… but if I don’t, he doesn’t… Or if I try this, and I can’t, he gets sad…

And little by little the voices invade. Resistance takes root.

Are there voices that plague you that don’t belong in your head? You can start by trying to complete the sentence “Sometimes I feel that I’m not ______ enough.”

Chances are deeply internalized statements like these are preventing you from doing much of what you were created for.

Sometimes resistance seeps its way in from the outside. But the trickiest thing is when we can no longer distinguish the voice of resistance from our own.

{ 3 comments… add one }

  • Erin Wilson January 17, 2011, 8:15 pm

    Are you familiar at all with the work of Dr. Brené Brown? She’s been researching and writing on shame, perfectionism, and authenticity. Really good stuff. She recently did a talk for TEDx Houston (I think it was Houston…). Really worth watching. I might mention that she’s very funny too 🙂

    • Lon January 19, 2011, 11:28 am

      Hey Erin! I’m not familiar with her work… well until i looked her up – i actually had watched 70% of her tedx talk, and must’ve got distracted. I watched the rest it was good. It’s such a huge leap though from mentally embracing those realities and actually living them out…

  • Erin Wilson January 19, 2011, 6:14 pm

    You’re right… it’s a huge leap. I guess I mentioned it because you’re the father of daughters, and because you seem to be really focused in to intentionality. Hard as it is for you to change things for yourself, you have a really good chance to make sure that things are different for your daughters.

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