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Let me in…

A Jesus-follower shares with me yesterday

How can people lift their hands singing about the love of God, and not f*cking spend the time to really welcome me into the church?  I want to be a part of the body of Christ, but no one will f*cking let me in!”

He’s attended several different churches, created and opened himself up for conversation, but still, no one’s been willing to invest the time and energy into authentically befriending him.  He feels cut-off, rejected, and alone.  Now what?

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  • Dallas August 26, 2007, 1:25 pm

    Lon, I think this is why it is essential that we keep the churches small and geographically based. If we can embed the idea that the purpose to is live life together following Christ then it will be less about cliques and affinity groups. It becomes more about those who are in your immediate view and community. The closer we live together the easier it becomes to actually live life together. I know that takes some radical changes and even a really big push to make some hard decisions. But it seems that it would become less about great worship songs and more about seeing the people we are near become more like Christ along with us.

    Just thoughts.

    But I think in this case you can only encourage him to press harder into Christ and realize that His people are not perfect. Right? What would you tell him.

  • Lon August 26, 2007, 8:31 pm

    Hey Dallas, thanks for the practical ideas… i too agree with small and regional, it makes an environment that almost demands people pressing against each other and community to develop…

    i’ve made the same suggestions as well… i forgot to mention that this person has had a history of mental health issues. he’s a passionate lover of Jesus nonetheless. The reality is it’s just incredibly difficult and rare for people to take the time to press through any awkwardness and create real and meaningful friendship. Sometimes a human can only take so much rejection… but i agree, part of it’s just realizing the brokenness even within the church… sadly.

  • ray August 28, 2007, 8:36 am

    Boundaries and Communication.

    I think we all know similar people who we avoid out of fear they will monopolize our time or cause uncomfortable situations. The common one is starting a conversation that constantly ends with “Can I get a ride home?” or “I’m hungry too – do you mind if I come along?”

    I struggle with saying “No” because I’m a jackarse and saying “No” to protect my boundaries. And I don’t know how to say “No” without coming across like a jerk (being afraid to hurt some feelings). My instinct is to avoid those situations altogether… which means avoiding those kind of people.

  • Lon August 28, 2007, 10:42 pm

    Thanks for the honesty Ray. I’ve found myself in the same situations, it’s amazing how easy it is sometimes to ignore our own hypocrisy. I wonder what opportunities and blessings we might be missing out on along the way though…

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